Is My Husband's Anger, Justified?
So yesterday evening I come home from a dental check up and, he asks me how it went. I tell him that I need some small surgery on my gums because, they are receding and, you can begin to see the metal from my dental implants. He then became upset because I never told him I had dental implants. I lost all my teeth at 22 to a gum disease so, I have a full set of implants. We’ve been married 26 years and, even have a daughter.
Is he right to be angry, I tried explaining to him that most of the time, I forget they are even implants. I also wasn’t aware that part of the dating process was sharing ones dental history. Would you be angry? Is he right to be? I don’t think so. It’s not like I have dentures.
Hmmmm, This makes me worry more and more about dating these days. How to prepare for a 2 nd date:
Divers License to verify age: CHECK
Credit History: CHECK
Dental records: CHECK
Social Security Card: CHECK
Urine sample: CHECK
Hair follicles, background check, driving history: CHECK CHECK CHECK
This years pap-smear results: CHECK
Copy of recent bank statement: CHECK
Birth Certificate (and citizenship papers is applicable): CHECK
Vision results: CHECK
Let’s see did I miss anything?
Haha sorry had to post my list lol.
In no way, shape or form should your hubby be mad at you. I’m sure you simply forgot. Besides, how do you mention that in convo anyhow?
Him: I work on cars, I love to golf, and I’m a football fan. So tell me something about you..?!?!
You: I have dental implants.
hmmm not hardly. Im sure he is more so upset about him failing to know EVERYTHING about you especially after 23 years of marriage. I can smell a "tell me something I dont know about you" convo comming on. Hang in there girl…he will be over his fit in no time!!
No he does not, give him a slap!
Yes and No! I would have told him about my dental implants, which is a major dental procedure. This is a major expenditure.
he should not be angry with you
Maybe he was upset about something else, because I don’t think implants should be a big deal.
He’s overreacting. You already said your peace so don’t sweat it though.
You guys have been together for 26 years so it’s you guys have the key to making your marriage work.
No there should be no anger, he should be supportive, though at one point you should have told him but it wasn’t imperative that you did. Hopefully he will come around, Good Luck
If you’ve made it 26 years and all you two are arguing about is your teeth I think you should consider yourselves lucky.
He’ll get over it and so will you.Happy 26 more together.
i dont think so.
Maybe he feels like you aren’t telling him other things. i dunno. he shouldn’t have gotten mad though.
If he couldn’t tell before now that your teeth aren’t real either he’s blindly apathetic or a really poor judge of dental work on someone he’s been married to for 26 years. He has no right to be angry or uptight…give it a little time and he’ll cool off since there aren’t any real alternatives to the surgery.
lol, I agree with you, sharing ones dental history is not part of the dating process. I don’t think I would have mentioned it either, not because I was trying to hide anything from him, but because I simply wouldnt have thought to mention it. Like you said, its not like you have dentures, you’re not taking them out everynight, constantly being reminded that they aren’t real. I dont see the problem here. I kinda get his point, like, 26 years and you haven’t mentioned this yet? BUT more importantly, why would you? I had a tummy tuck several years back, and I dont go around telling the people I date. I’ve been with my fiance for a long time, and I don’t even think I mentioned it to him until he asked me what the scaring was from…. And dont think I ever would have, not because I wanted to KEEP it from him, but just because, why would I tell him that? "Hi I’m Anna, I’m 23 years old, I have a 3 year old little boy, I like hiking, fishing, and canoeing, and several years ago I got a tummy tuck"….. Just doesnt float its way into a normal conversation…..
Well I had to put my self in his shoes and if it was me I think it would be more hurt. I mean your married and you should be sharing everything together and a procedure like that was a big thing in your life and he did not even know about it. I think its more of a shock and maybe what else you have not told him. Im not jumping to conclusions just saying its something that should have come up. So he should not be so angry but something you should sympathies with.
He must not give a damn about you to be mad about that!
I do not think that it is justified. Things that happen before them sometimes get overlooked.
I could see if you were trying to hide Herpes, HIV, or something like that. He’s a donkey’s behind and needs to grow up. Would he rather you have no teeth? Actually…he probably does.
He’ll get over it, sheesh, it’s not like he had to pay for them?.
Try tea tree oil toothpaste (heals gums), and the flossing toothbrush by OraMedix. They’re the best.
Yes he is. He’s entitled to his emotions just like your are.
You are ‘not allowed’ to tell him he’s not allowed to be angry.
He /is/ angry – do you care about him or not?
You deceived him. It’s not an highly material deception but you did deceive him.